If the music we listen to is any indication, then breaking up, feeling down about it and hopefully finding the courage to move on are some of the most common shared human experiences. As centuries of forlorn singletons have learned and generations of songwriters have mastered, one of the best cures for heartbreak is the balm of music that speaks to our souls — or maybe helps us rationalize away the tears. Vincent , Lorde , Kesha and P!
“Chelsea Hotel #2,” Leonard Cohen
There are different ways to handle a breakup , depending on the situation, of course. But whether you're wallowing in tears because you got blindsided or giving out high fives for finally letting go of the jerk, one thing's for sure: music makes it all better. This time around, we're leaving the makeout songs behind and listening to jams that will have anyone sailing through heartbreak.
“Call Out My Name,” The Weeknd
Last October, I made a playlist on Spotify called " brood, think about boys. I named the playlist "brood, think about boys" because that's what I was doing a lot of at the time, on my walks around my neighborhood in my light jackets. You can brood in any weather, but light-jacket weather is especially conducive for walking around, listening to a curated list of nostalgic bangers, and luxuriating in your feelings. I went through a breakup at the end of last summer that left me truly single for the first time in my adult life. In high school and college, it was easy to quickly jump into a new relationship to cushion the blow of each breakup. But last summer's breakup was the first one I had in a new city where I hardly knew any boys at all, much less any I could start dating to soothe the sting of the loneliness. Days before things ended, when it was still hot and sweaty outside, I sat in a cool, air-conditioned subway car with a friend and confided that I was terrified to leave the relationship I knew was already over. That it felt like I was about to jump into the deep end of a dark swimming pool being fully single as an adult in New York and it's not that I was unsure of my swimming abilities, it was more that I wasn't even sure what the water would feel like. We broke up, I jumped into the swimming pool, and immediately got on all the apps. Tinder, OkCupid, and Bumble were like my sad little flotation devices.
Getting over a breakup is different for everyone. But other people prefer to go into hibernation and listen to the best breakup playlist on repeat while watching Law and Order. And that's OK too. Well, that's up to you, but there are a few reliable places to turn to. For example, music can do us a lot of good when we're in emotional pain. Here are 11 of the best breakup playlists, no matter what your post-split mood is. Are you angry? Not sure?